Man+Woman

02.01 am.

Peace & Love.

I have realised just recently that there is no other girl i know that i'd pick over my girlfriend.

No that doesnt quite describe it.

What i am trying to say is that basically i haven't met one girl whom i can say honestly matches or surpasses my girlfriends primary or secondary strengths. Secondary ones perhaps they may have a chance with.

The primary ones will definitely be a major bloody problem.

One especially.

Her independence.

Her fucking independence.

It is commonplace to hear women talking of how "strong, confident, centred,capable, independent, insert other self affirming words here" they are but the proof as they say is in the pudding.

Shitloads of girls i know and the media in general show most of this talk to be just that. Fucking talk. This is something humans are very good at doing, talking the talk. However, cometh the hour and people tend to run faster than the flash himself. In this case, girls/women talk the talk but do not walk the walk.

It is foolish that some girls insist on being treated equally but then stick to some supposedly "old fashioned" rules cos they benefit from it.

Common ones include:

Guy opening the doors for a girl.

Guy pulling out the chair for a woman to sit down (I've never understood this one meself).

Guy paying for most evenings out (when both parties have reasonable paying jobs).

Girl refusing to ask a guy out cos "a guy should ask me out".

Girl looking severely disinterested when there's manual work to be done.

Girl not proposing to Guy even though she's dying to marry said dude (waiting for him to ask instead cos "a man should be the one to pop the question").

There a few more things on the list but i cant be arsed to go into them all.

In the old days men paid cos women weren't allowed to work and hence had no money ergo they couldnt pay for stuff. Now women can and do work and as such the old rule is now irrelevant. To have a job and leave all the paying of stuff to the dude while spending money on oneself is selfish beyond reason. You have money, use it in a none selfish capacity.

Asking someone out is daunting. Most guys know this and have been shot down on more than one occassion, however we dust ourselves off and keep moving. Its scary to approach a stranger but it shows a lot of guts and saves you wondering what would have happened if you didnt ask.

As for the whole opening of doors, lifting bags etc.

Men are physically stronger than women contrary to what some stupid people say. This does not mean however that the dude is a walking crane and should be expected to lift/move/carry all things that stand in the path of the lady in question.

Besides if you like your boyfriend/husband - which you kind of should do if you are with them - why not open the doors for him. Kindness is much better when it flows both ways.

As for the dudes that insist on paying cos it shows that they can take care of the girl, make them feel like a man and will make her feel special. Well that's cack too.

The only thing you need to make you feel like a man is if you were born as one. Everything else, cars, houses, bling etc is bull****. The dude that uses such things to identify his masculinity is trying measure someones height in litres. Dude you are using the wrong scale.

Its easy to buy stuff for someone as a way of prooving that you can take care of them and to make them feel special. More difficult is to clean up the person's vomit, hold their hand when they are feeling really sick, comforting them when bad shit happens, hugging them, cuddling them, Listening to them and giving a shit about what they have to say.

Encouraging your girl to truly be herself. Appreciating her childish side, accepting her for who she is imperfections and all, finding her attractive and still wanting to shag her senseless despite her not having a perfect body.

That's taking care of someone and making them feel special.

Not buying them a meal and a necklace each time.

Thing is both parties have to blame for this mess. Men and women.

Take responsibility and help fix this mess. Who knows, we might even all have happier relationships for it (strange thought i know).